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Three Steps to Enjoy Your Life More

Have you noticed that time seems to be speeding up these days? and the“to do” list appears to be getting bigger and bigger.  Maybe there is a feeling that there are not enough hours in the day to do what needs to be done.  As a result there may be a tendency to put things off that you enjoy in favour of getting “things done”.

Life can be incredibly busy, and it is easy to fall into a feeling of overwhelm. When that happens creativity slows down or stops completely. Therefore, as a result, feelings of pressure, stress and overwhelm can creep up quickly.

 

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Wake up and enjoy the day!

It is a great feeling to wake up and look forward to enjoying the day ahead.  If this isn’t happening, then it’s time to find out why.

As a Wellbeing Consultant, Founder of Flourish Beyond 40, and Author of The Insightful Way journal, the subject of time comes up with clients all the time.

Clients want to know how they can enjoy their life more.  Furthermore, they are all looking for more balance within their lives.  Consequently, this led me to create The Insightful Way Journal to help lead people to create powerful positive changes in their lives.

Personal Choice

First of all, we have 24 hours a day and a personal choice on how to use and enjoy our free time.  Given the gadgets available, shouldn’t there be more free time available? Dishes are placed in the dishwasher,  laundry is placed into the washing machine. While in effect this should be creating more time, the opposite is true.

 

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Maybe work takes up the largest part of the day.  Dinner needs to be cooked, chores need to be completed.  No wonder flopping on the sofa and watching TV at the end of the day is so tempting.  So, how can can you enjoy life more?

Here are three ways to create time to do more of what you love and enjoy.

Finding Balance

It is easy to fall out of balance.  Sometimes  work and career commitments take priority over enjoyment of free time.

A mother may be  pulled in many directions. An employee may have deadlines to meet.  A business owner may have heavy responsibilities. There are also people who are constantly busy ‘doing’ rather than ‘being’.

Whatever the circumstances,  here are three ways to create time.

  1. Finding Clarity

Do you remember what your hobbies and interests are?  When was the last time you painted/ sewed/sang/danced/learned a new language?

 

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When was the last time you switched off completely and lost yourself  doing something you love?

What did you enjoy before you became a wife, mother, busy, or started to climb the career ladder?  Write it down. Look at your list.

Highlight the ones on your list that  evoke the biggest feelings of excitement or maybe a ripple of inspiration.

  1. Reflection Time

Take some quiet time to reflect on the reasons why you are not creating enough time to do the things that you love and enjoy.

Write these down and take a good honest look at your list.

Are there workaholic tendencies on board?

While it may be natural to say to yes to others, do you also consider your own wants, needs and desires?

Quite often clients say they feel a sense of guilt when they spend time doing something they enjoy. Is this true for you?

There may be many reasons why you are not creating time to do what you love and enjoy.  Furthermore, if money is tight you may also have to put in extra hours to meet monthly bills and commitments.  As a result  finding time for yourself will probably be even more challenging.

Time Stands Still When You are Doing What you Love

Time seems to stand still when you do what you love. Whether that be while you are  engrossed in a great book, painting a picture or creating something because you are doing something you actually enjoy.

This is a good thing as you are in a more peaceful, calm, balanced state of being.   The mind and body needs this “down time” to recharge itself and move away from stress.

  1. Time Assessment allows you to enjoy your life more

Maybe it is time for you to decide whether you would rather spend less time in certain activities while spending more time in other areas doing what you enjoy.

A time assessment of your day can be a really useful exercise, furthermore it highlights areas of potential change.   Writing down what you do each day, and how how much time you spend doing it is very enlightening.

Start with the following

  • exercise
  • scrolling Facebook newsfeed
  • Instagram
  • Other social media
  • Work
  • Duties at home
  • Chatting on the phone with friends on a daily basis
  • Watching TV
  • Reading magazines
  • Other time wasting activities

Make the Change

The results of the time assessment clarifies the amount of time spent in each area. As a result, this information will probably prompt you towards change because now you know!

While changes are not always easy, they are incredibly empowering because you have made a conscious choice to improve your life.

Is it possible for you to spend less time on Social Media?  Is it possible that you could watch less TV?   Once you have identified which areas you can create extra time in, go ahead and make the change.

 

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Enjoy Creating  Positive Vibes

Start each morning with a positivity ritual.  On waking, spend a few moments thinking of all the things you feel grateful for today.  Write this in your journal.

Also, at the end of the day write down all the good things that happened to you during the day and read it before going to sleep.

Place coloured post it stickers on the mirror, in your car, on your desk as visual reminders to do the things you love and enjoy.  As a result you will feel feel more motivated to create the changes you need and want,  because of these gentle visual nudges.

In conclusion, life will probably feel  more calm, peaceful and balanced when you create more time in your life do what you love. Therefore maybe the changes you make will impact your life in a bigger way than you realise.

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Friendship: why honouring friendship promotes happiness

 

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Friendship is a wonderful gift

Friendship means different things to different people.  I’ve just returned from a fabulous and fun break with a great friend who I haven’t seen for over 20 years.  She flew up from “down South” and we met half way in the vibrant cosmopolitan buzzing city of Glasgow.

The whole trip brought it home to me once again the importance of nurturing our female friendships.  No matter how close you may be with your partner, there is nothing quite like sitting down with a best friend and getting down to the nitty gritty girlie subjects of “women’s stuff” as my lovely husband calls it.

Changes

This particular trip was loaded with excitement and anticipation of reawakening friendship.  After all, the last time we had seen each other was in the Middle East many years ago, and so many huge life changes and shifts has happened since then.

During the train journey so many questions flew around my mind.  Would there be any awkward silences?  Will we get along? we are both completely different people – but then again are we really?  Would we still have anything in common?  Will we struggle to connect and rekindle our friendship?

Reconnection

All of these questions disappeared the second we saw each other.  We lost ourselves in huge long awaited hugs.  Linked arms and promptly went for a coffee and a natter just like old times.  Before we knew it two hours had passed in what felt like minutes, both very comfortable in each others company. Our friendship had slotted right back to where it needed to be.

 

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We started talking and didn’t stop for the whole two days.  We ate dinner at a lovely Thai Restaurant, we enjoyed cocktails, we pampered ourselves all day long in the Spa, we indulged ourselves fully, and why not?   We also had a quiet giggle that we were both yawning and back in the Hotel room by around 10pm at night.  Both in our comfy pjs, talking and laughing again into the early hours.

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It was all perfect.  A time full of laughter, sharing, caring, conversation, and fun.  It was like we had never been apart.   This is the mark of a true friendship.  When you can just pick up where you left off just as we did.

As we delved into the delicious juicy parts of each others lives and all the missed moments.  It was very clear that both of us had been through a huge amount of life challenges, and changes that has shaped who we are today.  Strong, empowered women flourishing  beyond 40.

Wisdom

Gone were the younger, carefree versions of ourselves, replaced with the wisdom of life’s experiences of pleasure and pain, but most of all deep inner growth.

It felt sad to say goodbye, but actually we are just saying hello – again and how beautiful is that?

At this stage in life, we have both lost our parents and other members of family and friends.  This is the cold reminder of the march of time and just how precious living each day to the full really is.

 

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Choices

Life is short, and way too short to spend time with the wrong people for the wrong reasons.  This is another benefit of being an older wiser, woman.  You are much less likely to care so much about what others think of you, in the realization it is far more important what you think of yourself.

So as children flee the nest and go off to live lives of their own, or you move into the retirement years. do your best not to feel sad.

Yes, there may be an empty feeling for a little while.  However, this is “your” time. Your time to reconnect with all the things you love and enjoy, reawakening your hobbies and interests again.  What about learning a new language, joining some groups to extend your circle of friends, schedule fun times in the year for fun outings with your “bestie”.

One of my lovely clients who has recently retired is a wonderful example of living life to the full.  She is a member of several groups, travelling to new places regularly, seeing friends often, taking good care of her health and wellness. Effectively honouring her own “me “time, and you can too.

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It may seem a little scary to reach out and perhaps go to places or groups on your own.  But fear is a paralyzing emotion that will keep you stuck in the same place.  When you hear that little voice in your mind whispering “but what if they don’t like me” challenge it by saying “what if they do?”!!  How will you know if you don’t try?   Comfort zones may feel safe, but we all know that there is no growth there.

Life is full of possibilities, and you are full of potential.  There are places to go, people to meet, experiences to have.  So go on, make that call, face up to your fears, you will so glad you did.

As you reflect this week on aspects of your life; perhaps ask yourself if you are nurturing your friendships.  Are you being a good friend?  Is there someone you need to call?  Why not do that today?

“In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge.  They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weaknesses, and they incite those in the prime of life to noble deeds”. Aristotle – Philosopher

 

 

 

 

 

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Goals and Dreams

 

Goals and Dreams – 6 Successful Tips towards Making them Happen at Any Age!

I heard a statement last week that really inspired me to write this Blog.  The statement I heard was “I am way too old now to work on my goals and dreams”!  The truth is you are never too old to hold a big vision of of your life and what you want to be, see and do.

Goals and dreams, are something we may find ourselves working on throughout life, and  are  a wonderful way to work on personal growth and development.  As we reach the end of January with the festive season far behind and the “summer holiday” adverts  already being screened, it may be time to review your own big vision of yourself.

Research from the University of Scranton states  that only 8% of people achieve their New Year’s resolutions/goals/dreams or aspirations. Why is that?

Unfortunately many people set goals but have no clear idea on how to implement them into their lives, and many set goals that are just not achievable for them personally or professionally.  So how can we set powerful yet realistic goals and have a higher success of making them happen?

It is a true saying that “if you keep doing the same thing, you will continue to get the same results”.  When you have no clarity about where you are going, or what it is you want to do, then you get stuck in a rut.  Here is a great way for you to breathe life into your goals and dreams.

Make sure you create space in your day to work on these.  Ensure you have let go of anything that is holding you back so that you are full of energy to work on your vision.

1. VALUES

It is recommended that you have your core values established and this is generally the first place that people stumble because they don’t have a clear idea what their values are. A value is something that holds great importance to you.  These may be in the area of:

  • Love
  • Family
  • Relationships
  • Health
  • Finances
  • Travel
  • Adventure
  • Personal growth and development
  • Faith
  • Trust
  • Security
  • Honest
  • Integrity

And many more in addition to the above.  Once you have established what your values are, you can then place them in order of priority with number 1. being top priority for you and so on. This helps you to get moving on the areas you consider important straight away.  Spend some time reflecting on your top values and how they impact your life and how they matter to you.  For example having health as a number one value carries over to all other values. Without health some of the other values may not be possible i.e. travel or adventure.  Interpret your values personally for you, this has the biggest emotional charge which is a great motivator towards change.

Asking the Right Questions

If you are struggling with goals and values, here are some key questions you can ask yourself:

  1. What do I truly want?
  2. What is the reason that I want it?
  3. What changes do I need to make to my life to make this happen?
  4. Is what I want in alignment with core values and ethical principles?
  5. How do I feel when I do things that go against my value system?

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It is evident that successful and happy people set goals that are in alignment with their value system.  Many also have their own “Mission Statements”.  Why not create your own that is unique and personal to you to help get you from where you are to where you want to be. Take a piece of paper and jot down what mission statements “feel” right for you.

Some examples are:

  • I want to make a difference to the world
  • To be the best version of myself possible
  • Live my life in alignment with who I am as a person
  • Continue working on my own personal growth and development
  • Live a life of truth and integrity

 

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Think about seven areas of your life where you would like to bring about positive change and create  Mission Statements for each one.  This may be in the areas of:

  1. Relationships
  2. Health
  3. Free time
  4. Personal growth & development
  5. Career
  6. Spirituality/faith/connection
  7. Financial flow

2. GOALS

Now that you have written your Mission Statements you have more clarity and will find it easier to set goals and dreams around each one.  Create a special time in your day to write your goals.  Unleash your imagination and allow your mind to flow with ideas and possibilities.  If you hear the negative voice of self doubt whispering in your when you do this exercise, just stop for a moment and visualise yourself achieving your goals and dreams.  See it, feel it, touch it, smell it; the taste of success is delicious.  Make your visualisation as real as you can within your mind. This helps to adjust your mindset towards a better and more positive direction.

 

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3. ACTION

Some people love to work on their goals visually by creating a Vision Board.  I am a huge fan of Vision Boards and create them regularly, and they work!  To create a Vision Board collect as many images, quotes and photographs as you can that really inspire you and get you fired up.  Place these on a blank canvas. You may wish to section areas off according to your goals. Write in colour on your board.  Make sure you place your board somewhere you can see it every day and start to take action every single day towards your goals and dreams.  You cannot plant a seed in fertile ground, not water it and expect it to grow.  The same applies to your goals and dreams.  You may also wish to create some really powerful affirmations.  Nurture the seeds of success you are planting.

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4. BE VIGILANT

Be vigilant about what you allow yourself to think in terms of your goals.  Being in control of your mindset and staying positive is imperative.  Stay in the growth zone as much as you can. This is where the energy is, and this is where the magic happens. Become an expert at turning negatives into positives.  Be careful with the words you use in your daily vocabulary.  Words such as should, try, and can’t are very self limiting and keep you small. You deserve to shine your light!

 

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5. LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE

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Of course you may have a few stumbling blocks along the way. This is normal and natural.  One of these may be in the area of lack of belief in your capabilities or your true potential.  When this happens, take some time to write down all of your achievements in life  in a journal.  I can recommend a wonderful journal www.facebook.com/theinsightfulwayjournal  Review this list regularly, and acknowledge how far you have travelled, all that you have learned, and how much you have changed and transformed so far.

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6. BE WITH THOSE THAT BELIEVE IN YOU

Not everyone will be thrilled that you are  making monumental life changes and transformations.  Not everyone will share your enthusiasm.  Let that be okay.  This is your journey, not theirs.  You may find that you are “letting go” of certain people or situations.  Let that be okay too.  You are creating a big and wonderful space for new people, and opportunities to enter your life.  Be discerning with who you choose to share your precious time and energy with. Not everyone deserves a seat at your table in life.  If people are putting you down, belittling you, do you need these people in your life anyway?

Stay motivated to continue to working on yourself daily.  Small steps today lead to big results tomorrow.  Keep believing in yourself.  You are full of unlimited potential, and you are more than worthy of creating the life that you want to live.

I wish you lots of luck, happiness and joy in achieving all of your goals, dreams.  Remember you are worthy always.

It is time for you to inhale the future and exhale the past

This is your time to shine, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

 

 

 

 

 

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Changing Your Mindset

 

CHANGING YOUR MINDSET TO GET THE RESULTS YOU WANT

I have just returned from an amazing trip to the Middle East where I was invited so speak at the Women’s Peak Performance Summit on changing the mindset.  Set in the beautiful surroundings of the Anantara Eastern Mangroves and Spa in Abu Dhabi and lovely warm sunshine, a truly lovely experience.

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It was a great trip in many respects, one because I was returning to the country where I lived in for 28 years and where I established a very successful business and made wonderful friends along the way.  Secondly I was breaking through my own fear barriers of public speaking by changing my own mindset.

The talk went incredibly well and it felt incredibly empowering to finally push that old obstacle to success out of the way once and for all and I am left feeling excited and inspired to do more public speaking events.

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The mind can be a prison or it can a garden that flourishes, all depending on what you choose to feed it with our expose it to.  You can choose to grow weeds or you can choose to grow flowers, and it all comes down to the thoughts you think, the words you use, and the actions you take (or not).

A mindset focused in the right direction gets the results you are looking for. There are two mindsets; the growth mindset or the fixed mindset.  In the growth mindset there is a lot of energy and action taking.

 

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A person operating from a growth mindset will generally not perceive failure as failure but as an opportunity to learn, improve and do it better next time. They are genuinely happy for other people’s success, and they truly believe that if they put their mind to it they can achieve it.  People operating from the growth mindset tend to get the results they want.

On the other side there is the fixed mindset.  There isn’t much happening there, and it is all rather stagnant and flat.  A person operating from a fixed mindset tends to give up as soon as they feel they have failed, they may also feel slightly threatened by another person’s success and they also do not tend to thrive as well as a person operating from a growth mindset.

Why not take a moment to reflect which side you may be operating from.

 

So what do you do if you find yourself in the fixed mindset too much?  First of all, let go of judging yourself as to why you are over there in the first place.  There are many reasons for this.

Let’s take a look at ways to move you towards a growth mindset.

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 WORDS

 The thoughts you think and the words you use in your vocabulary have energy, impact and power behind them.  Words such as can’t, won’t, try, should, impossible are all limiting words.  The word but, for example, is normally followed by a negative statement: I would love to apply for that job BUT I am not clever enough, I would like to eat healthily BUT I haven’t got the willpower.

 

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The same applies to the word don’t, the more we focus on what we don’t want, the more we attract it into our lives.  If I were to ask you “don’t think of a purple elephant”, what are you thinking of right now?

Become more aware of the thoughts you think and the words you use. In communication and dialogue use words such as; can, now, will, possible, ready.  There is action and movement in these words.

 

BELIEFS

Some of the beliefs you have are not necessarily useful or helpful for you in present time.  They may not be your own and may come from what you have been taught to believe as a child.  Maybe a teacher told you that you were stupid, or dumb, or someone told you that you are not good enough.

Some of the beliefs I have heard in my work with many people are “because my family are all diabetic then I will be too, or everyone in my family is obese so I will be too.”  These beliefs are not helpful for you in your life and as such may be impacting and sabotaging all that you are working towards becoming who you want to be.

Take time to reflect on what your own programmed beliefs are, and take steps towards letting them go and embracing new beliefs that support your growth, development and potential.

 

SELF TALK

It may be time to challenge the little voice inside that whispers “you are not good enough, clever enough, pretty enough” and so on.  You are enough, you are more than enough.  Begin to acknowledge all of your achievements in life so far.  Challenge that voice within by asking “is this really true”?  When you hear “what if I fail”? Challenge with “what if I succeed”?  Negative self talk will sabotage your goals and dreams.

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Start today to implement new mindset behaviour to help to get you to where you want to be. Work with the three step process provided.  Yes, change can be scary, yet it is incredibly empowering.

Bereavement and Dealing With Loss

“Real loss is only possible when you love something more than you love yourself” – Robin Williams

The one thing in life that we are all guaranteed to experience is loss and bereavement. Many people associate loss with death; however loss can be defined as anything that is no longer in your life that causes you significant emotional discomfort and pain.  Therefore loss can be related to:

  • Loss of health
  • Loss of youth (the aging process)
  • Partner/friends/family
  • Loss of job or lifestyle
  • Loss of security
  • Loss of confidence or self esteem
  • Loss of pets
  • Loss independence
  • Loss of choices
  • Loss of a future you had planned
  • Loss of purpose in life
  • Finances

And I am sure you would be able to add to this list.

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We are Taught to Acquire, but not How to Cope with Loss and Bereavement

It is interesting that at School we are taught to “get”; get a good education, get a good job, get a partner, get a nice house, car, children, clothes and so the list continues.  As a society we are taught many things, but one thing is absent from the school curriculum: how do we deal with loss when it arrives in our life?  What do you do with the overwhelming feelings of sadness, bereavement, and the ensuing emotional rollercoaster of emotions?

According to the Grief Recovery Institute, 8 million people become new grievers each year. The divorce rate exceeds 45% not including those who are not married.  That is a lot of loss and bereavement.

People seek out Counsellors, to help which is good, but what if you knew how to manage the emotions of loss as it arrived in your life?  What if you had the tools that you needed to feel better?

We have all known loss and will continue to know loss on the journey of life.  Each individual processes their losses in a different and unique way.   There is a tendency to feel so uncomfortable with loss that it is pushed under the carpet and covered up with an “I am fine” attitude.  However this is not useful or helpful as those emotions will arise at some point in the future when you least expect it to happen.

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So What Can You do When you Experience Loss in Your Life?

Well how long is a piece of string?  Here are some tips to help you deal with loss and also to help others:

Don’t say the following:

Don’t cry

Crying is good and allows you to release

 

Don’t feel bad    

How?

 

He she is in a better place  

Is this true? How do you know?

 

There are plenty more partners

But you wanted the one you lost

 

You have to be strong for….   

How? When you are in deep pain

 

Keep yourself busy    

Is the same as brushing it under the carpet.

 

People do not know how to deal with loss as they have not been taught how to deal with it either.  Quite often they do not know what to say, when to say it, or if they should say it at all, and they are afraid of our tears, emotions and feelings.  In some cases it may trigger their own.  You may find people are reluctant to hear about your loss and will change the subject or worse still they are not hearing what a griever has to say.

A person in loss needs to be heard.  You may wish to say “I am sorry, what happened?”  Then listen without interrupting, without offering your own comparisons, without offering advice.  Be a heart with ears and hear what they are saying.

You may wish to offer your help in other ways by offering to babysit, cook dinner, and let them know you are there for them; help them with housework and invite them to events.  Don’t push them away or isolate them from your life.

Other people may say to you, “I know how you feel” but they don’t.  Your loss is unique and personal to you, and the only person that really knows how you are feeling is you.

A person in grief and sadness is likely to experience the following:

  • Reduced concentration
  • Feeling of numbness
  • Emotional rollercoaster
  • Eating habits may change to more or less
  • Disrupted sleep

Please seek out the help and support you need if you are dealing with loss. The Grief Recovery Programme is excellent.

If you have enjoyed this Blog and would like to know more, why not check out our Dealing with Loss Module to see how we can help and support you.

Have a wonderful day!

 

Isobel McArthur

Founder of Flourish Beyond 40

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Midlife

Stress Management and Feeling More Relaxed

Stress is something that we all need to be aware of a feeling that is almost unavoidable. Life is so busy these days and for many high stress levels become a normal and natural feeling.

For many people a typical day begins with an unhealthy breakfast snatched quickly on the way to work.  Time spent trawling hundreds of emails or dealing with Social Media.  Add in to that mix responsibilities of home and family commitments and a long commute.  No wonder stress levels are high.

“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it” – Sydney J. Harris

It is almost impossible to avoid stress impacting your life.  The most important thing we can do for ourselves is learning to recognise when those stress levels are rising and how to manage stress to live life in a more peaceful way.

There are so many tools and solutions available to help handle stress levels, and small steps may make a big difference as to how you feel, but it is not one-size-fits-all.  What works for one person does not necessarily work for all.  Why not start to implement  new stress management techniques each week, try it on for size, see how it feels, then try another.  You will know what works for you personally.

One of the best gifts to give yourself is to learn what your stress triggers are, and to deal with these effectively and well without allowing your stress levels to rise to dangerous health-damaging levels.

Here are some tips that you can apply immediately to your life:

  • Stop multitasking. Focus on doing what one thing at a time, and keep your mind focused solely on that. If you really need to multi-task then set out a specific time in your day to do so, perhaps for an hour and get it over and done with. Seung Sahn, a Korean Zen Master,told his students “when reading only read. When eating, only eat.  When thinking, only think.  Embracing mindfulness, staying present and living in the moment you are in is a great way to move you away from the ‘busyness’ of life.
  • Make a habit of writing things down. Quite often when your mind is “over full” it is easy to forget important things.  As you do this you no longer have to constantly worry about something you feel you may have forgotten.
  • If you are fond of writing to do lists, then keep them suitably short and realistic. Looking at a long list of things to complete increases stress which is exactly the opposite of what you are trying to achieve.
  • Prioritise what needs to be done immediately and what can be done at another time.
  • Organise yourself well. More often than not you will know what you will be doing the next day.  Make sure your clothes are ironed and ready to wear.  Have your breakfast dishes on the table. Leave everything you need out and ready just before leaving the house such as car keys, handbag, umbrella, scarf and gloves.  Have your shoes ready at the door.  A lot of stress is created in the morning as people rush around looking for things they cannot find.
  • Wake up fifteen minutes earlier so that you can take your time in a more peaceful way.
  • If you work from home it is important that you take small breaks throughout the day, particularly if you are working at your computer. A balance of 45 minutes work and 15 minutes away helps to keep your energy levels up and your mind clear.
  • Ensure that your work and rest time is balanced.
  • Engage and communicate properly with your loved ones in your time off. Listen to what they have to say, enjoy your time spent with them.  Completely disconnect from work. If you can, put your phone on silent when you are off work.  Be present with those that are important to you.  Spending time thinking about work while with loved ones is both unfair and unnecessary.
  • Delegate as much as you can whenever you can, so that you have more time to do the things that you love.
  • Keep your environment clutter free. Keep a Zen-like space to allow fresh energy to continue to flow, keeping your mind away from distractions.
  • Turn down the noise of Social Media. How many times do you find yourself checking the newsfeed on Facebook only to find that you are still on it half an hour later?  Are you caught up in being oversubscribed to podcasts, blogs newsletters, webinars and so on? This can be very stressful indeed.  Start to unsubscribe to anything that is no longer useful to you or your goals. Doing this frees up your time to spend doing things that have more value and enjoyment.
  • Stay tuned into your body. Be aware of aches, pains and uncomfortable niggles.  Stress also presents itself as physical symptoms.  Learn to recognize when you are starting to feel drained and tired before you become exhausted and fatigued.  Take time to take care of you and your needs.
  • It is okay to be perfectly imperfect. Does perfection really exist?  It is a different concept for everyone.  Do your best and move on. When you need help do not be afraid to ask for it.
  • Have someone you can trust to talk to. It is a true saying “a problem shared is a problem halved”.
  • Breathe properly. When people are stressed they have a tendency to shallow-breathe from the chest.  Take a few deep breaths from the belly, breathing in relaxation and breathing out stress.

 

Keep yourself on track by asking yourself the following key questions:

  1. Is what I am doing moving me towards my goals or away from them?
  2. For what purpose am I choosing to think/be/behave this way?
  3. What can I do right now that is more important?
  4. Will this really matter one year, five years, 10 years from now?

 

S.E.E. the three simple fundamentals of keeping stress at bay:

  • Sleep enough
  • Eat well
  • Exercise regularlyIMG_3197

If you have enjoyed reading this blog, why not download the free relaxation recording we have available on www.flourishbeyond40.com.

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Have a fabulous stress free day!

 

Isobel McArthur

Founder of Flourish Beyond 40

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